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False allegations of abuse hurt more than just the father

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False allegations of abuse hurt more than just the father

July 31, 4:24 PM
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A story out of Vancouver, Washington was released recently about a father being released from prison 20 years after being convicted of child abuse. He was released after the children, now adults, told investigators the abuse had never happened. As children, they were insistently questioned by the detectives and treated to ice cream when they made the allegations.
Before I go any further, let me clarify one thing—I feel very strongly about child abuse. Anyone that hurts a child in anyway, especially in a sexual manner, should be severely punished. Children that are subjected to abuse need all of the support, assistance, and care they can receive. When someone makes a false allegation, these resources that are needed by actual victims are being drained. Child abuse investigations can take several months to years—and that is before it is even able to go to trial. Children who actually go through this traumatizing event are further traumatized by having to rehash the story again and again for several months to years.
Falsely accusing anyone of a crime serves little good. Sadly, according to columnist Jake Morphonios, 77% of sexual abuse allegations are false. Mothers in the midst of a custody battle or divorce have been known to accuse their children’s father of abuse to gain a legal edge over them. In our society, those accused of sexual abuse of children are treated as “guilty until proven innocent,” instead of the other way around. These men take blows to their reputation, relationships are often damaged beyond repair, and they could lose their jobs. They are isolated from their children even before trial, and often lose much of their parental rights even after they are acquitted or found not guilty. Their children have been conditioned to fear them, making a future relationship with them difficult.
Once child abuse allegations are brought against their father, children are interviewed, at a minimum, by a social worker to determine if abuse has occurred. In Utah, it is required by law for the child to make face-to-face contact with a social worker. The children are examined by physicians to find any physical evidence of abuse, which is rarely found even in actual cases. The children, knowing that the abuse never happened to begin with, are put through many needless interrogations and invasive testing, as well as being prescribed counseling which all reinforces the false story against their father. They begin to believe it.
With repetitive questioning from social workers and psychologists, many children grow to believe and accept that their fathers molested them. They are confused as to why so many adults seem to think that daddy did something bad, but eventually accept the suggestions as fact. Children are prematurely sexualized by this process, develop deviant sexual interests and begin to engage in sexual intercourse at a young age — Jake Morpohios
During a divorce or custody discussion, it can be scary for both parents. They fear losing their child, or having to “share” their child. Although this is a difficult time, for everyone, gaining a legal edge (and ultimately probably getting the custody you desire) is not worth hurting your child. Children going through a divorce are already confused, sad, scared, and in need of reassurance that it wasn’t anything they did…putting them through sexual abuse investigations, when the allegations are false, is only going to make that worse.
If you really feel that your children will be in danger while with their father, reach out to a lawyer for legal advice on how to keep them safe.

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  1. […] False allegations of abuse hurt more than just the father … By mkg4583 A story out of Vancouver, Washington was released recently about a father being released from prison 20 years after being convicted of child abuse. He was released after the children, now adults, told investigators the abuse had never happened. … The children are examined by physicians to find any physical evidence of abuse, which is rarely found even in actual cases. The children, knowing that the abuse never happened to begin with, are put through many needless … Parental Rights – https://mkg4583.wordpress.com/ […]

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