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Divorce Battles -MY SON’S FATHER IS BRAINWASHING HIM AGAINST ME

In Alienation of Affection, Best Interest of the Child, Civil Rights, custody, Non-custodial mothers, Parental Kidnapping, Parental Relocation, parental rights, Parental Rights Amendment, Parents rights, Restraining Orders on July 2, 2009 at 9:41 pm

MY SON’S FATHER IS BRAINWASHING HIM AGAINST ME

Q

Dear Dr. Sylvia:

I am a mother in the middle of a divorce and a vicious custody battle over my 12-year-old son. My son’s father is brainwashing him against me, but my son’s therapist has been telling him not to say anything negative against his father. How can I get these awful ideas about me out of my son’s head? —

Victimized Mom

A

Dear Victimized Mom: Your son’s therapist is giving your son good advice. Negative messages about the other parent not only cause children to feel torn between parents but typically backfire on both parents. Feel free to explain your husband’s accusations about you, and try to keep interesting and good things happening between you and your son. If you have some brothers around who can impress upon your son what a good person you are, that may help. The counselor may also help your son to see your value.

If your former husband will see a counselor about parenting, he’s likely to be advised not to denigrate you, so it would make sense to encourage him to find a good counselor. If any counselor sees both of you together, that counselor is likely to help you give appropriate, consistent messages to your son. Even one or two meetings together can make an important, positive difference for your son’s future adjustment.

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